Keep in mind too that Aspies can vary greatly in the extent and nature of the problems, characteristics or symptoms that they display.
This fact alone means that treating AS needs to be targeted as much as possible for each unique person.
Women who understand what it's like to be married to someone with Aspergers - no one else can even begin to understand the challenge. She is trying to understand and reach out for help. There were some arguments that I now understand were down to mutual misunderstanding from our brains being "wired differently" .
Many of the people at the adult Asperger's support groups I go to comment that their diagnosis made their marriages to their NT partner much happier. It points out that both people in the relationship need to work at understanding the other. Or times when we both felt a little unloved or uncared for because we didn't recognise the way the other was expressing their love.
Although a person with AS can tell they've angered or disappointed you, they rarely understand why.I'll assume that your husband has the normal high IQ common amongst folks with AS, and if so you can use that to your benefit to help him learn how to relate to you and "behave" in a more neuro-typical way.No one with AS wants conflict or strife, as it only serves to worsen the anxiety and depression that is so common in this disorder.I'm asking for help because I can't do everything myself." "You cook, I clean. I'm married to adhd and asperger for 13 years Not easy but very possible! My husband says I am his dream girl and he wouldnt change a thing about me.This is our agreement." "You can't be around chemicals, so you have to sweep, vacuum, and do the laundry." Getting emotional usually frustrates and/or shuts my husband down. Sure we didnt know I had as when we got married or for years but it sure helps to know and learn how to communicate better.* Anonymous said...
Dating mild aspergers
Right when he gets home from work, or just before bed, would not be ideal.• Anonymous said…"am finding myself slipping into feelings of resentment quite often" if you love him..I am attaching a photo of our son Chance-8 years old and is making progress everyday. I actually summarized what you shared and took my findings to a meeting at school with my sons 7th grade teachers... Angie Greathouse RN, MSN Louisville, KY Your book was an answer to prayer and were thankful for all the insight it provided.Take the time to explain how his behavior made you feel, and most importantly tell him EXACTLY what you want him to do differently.
Try to do so calmly, and at a time that both of you agree is appropriate to discuss the concern.
They have offered so much help and hope that I find it hard to describe.
God Bless you for your hard work and your caring so much that you do what you do. Sincerely, Connie Watson I just started your book 2 days ago. It's nice to read stuff where I don't feel like my 7 yr old is defective.
And there is a significant amount that is lost in translation leaving the non- aspire partner feeling not understood, not cared for and even unloved.
My support group was the best thing that ever happened to me. We managed OK for 16 years but a lot of things fell into place in hindsight once I had the diagnosis.